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It’s a New Year, Same Me! A Happy Me.

Updated: Sep 13

The celebrations are coming to an end, and for some of us the pressure to set new goals, create new intentions, dream bigger dreams, or have new resolutions will soon kick in. While there is nothing wrong with ushering in a fresh start, some people might find it more stressful to try to keep up with these things as the year gets busier. Instead of pursuing the pressures of all things new, this year, spend some time focusing on bringing who you are to a new space and evolving.


The beginning of a new year, month, week, and day, are all great times to re-evaluate what you would like to see in yourself and how you can do better, while giving yourself grace for what you have been able to accomplish. Here are 5 ways you can let go of any attachment to results, while grabbing hold of happiness.

  1. Focus on what’s happening right now and the unfolding process, rather than the destination or result.

  2. Live with a sense of purpose, meaning, and direction.

  3. Let go of the idea of a goal or destination and just focus on this day, this moment right now.

  4. Develop a tangible practice of gratitude, whether that is journaling, meditation, or saying grace.

  5. Be kind to yourself. Change can be hard and often takes time. Allow yourself to have feelings and forgive yourself for mistakes. You are here and doing your best, and that’s what counts.

Mindfulness. Focusing on the here-and-now.
A Happy Me.

Our happiness is not dependent on reaching any new goals or setting new resolutions. When our happiness is dependent on achieving a result or getting to a specific destination, then we set up an unhealthy state of tension and anxiety in the mind, where we are always striving and feeling pressured to get there. Withholding happiness from yourself until you’ve achieved a goal can lead to feelings of stress and anxiety. Instead, focus on the present moment to be happy now, as you pursue your dreams.


Remember, none of us are on this journey alone. We can not be who we are going to be, or do the things we are going to do without asking for help. Covid-19 has complicated our social lives, but it has not made things impossible. Lean on your support system and reach out for help when you need it. At the end of the day, we all just want to be better. And don’t forget the importance of gratitude.


“It is not happiness that makes us grateful, but gratefulness that makes us happy.” ~ David Steindl-Rast


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